This post is in response to 6 Signs You’re in a Rut, check it out before you read the answers below.
You’ve realized you’re in a rut. Nothing’s going your way, and it’s hard to be happy when you’re not in the mood to be happy. Self-help advice online makes you grimace. And, you feel all is hopeless.
So, try these six tips to help combat the rut:
1. Don’t Take Yourself Seriously:
When you’re a perfectionist, you have the tendency of taking yourself too seriously. Even, if you’re not a perfectionist, you probably know what it feels like to take things too seriously. Every molehill is a mountain. Every situation becomes dire.
Don’t do that to yourself. You need to stop taking things so seriously. Especially when it’s not all that important. Consider using a sense of humor to melt the intensity of a situation. Laughing is good medicine. And, it helps to think of current difficult situations as funny stories to tell family and friends later on.
2. Be a Duck:
I’m not telling you to start running around town quacking at people, though that’d be funny, and Youtube-worthy. But, consider the duck, and more importantly its feathers. Each feather is coated with tiny air bubbles and they are slick as oil. So when the creature enters the water, liquid just slides right off them.
Be like a duck. Let things go. Let them slide right off your back and onto the ground. It’s easier said than done. But, instead of holding onto things, and allowing it to eat at you. It’s best to heal yourself by letting it go. Otherwise, you end up bitter and hollow on the inside.
3. Take One Day at a Time:
Sometimes routines feel endless. Like going to the same dead-end job, or hanging out with the same people every single day ever! Instead of focusing on tomorrow, and the next day, and the next day….
Just take one day at a time. Don’t do that to yourself. And plan your escape. If it’s your job, look for a new one that actually feeds your mind and makes you feel useful. If it’s the people, change your group and switch it up, until you miss the old friends again.
Just keep on keeping on.
4. Exercise Your Mind & Body:
Exercise your mind by reading good books, listening to relaxing music, and playing games that require a lot of strategy and thinking. Learning a new skill, or even picking up drawing or writing can distract your mind and act as unofficial therapy. The more you do it, the better the distraction, and when you do fun things at random, like a child, it makes life seem more enjoyable.
As far as moving your body, things as simple as gardening, walking your dog, or biking is great for breaking out of a rut. The point isn’t so much to lose weight or even breaking a sweat. Just get outside, soak up some Vitamin D (if weather permits) and do something. Even if you walk around your block, your mind instantly feels clearer. My co-workers do this at the day-job, they escape their desk, walk around the building outside, and return. They’re sweaty but satisfied. I prefer kickboxing. But, to each their own.
5. Move Along:
Move Along is one of my favorite songs the song by The All-American Rejects. Being in a rut means you’re stuck. It might be a job, some family situation, or something else I haven’t listed. You may need to move on. How do you do that? It’s going to have to be up to you.
When I was having trouble at my last job, I didn’t move on. I stayed put until they forced me to leave by letting me go. Don’t allow bad situations to eat at you until you have to be forced to leave.
Moving on could mean asking your employer for a different department or a different kind of task to do. Even if it’s temporary. Or if it’s a family situation that’s tough, communicate more, ask for some help, or do the following.
6. Get Help:
See a professional. The web, my blog, WebMD. They have good ideas and all that. But, there’s nothing like actually speaking with someone, face-to-face, and someone qualified to handle the situation.
If you need a qualified physician. Get help through them. But, if you have a well-meaning friend who can go walking with you every day and listen to your drama (I do), then go to them. The point is to get un-stuck and free from the rut.
These answers may seem vague, I did so on purpose because I don’t have all the answers. No one does, but I have enough experience with feeling stuck and in a rut to know what helped me. I hope the above tips help you out.
If you have any useful tips, please let me know below. I’m always happy to hear from my readers!